Beauty and the Sovereignty Of The Goddess

"What is the not beautiful? Our own secret hunger to be loved is the not-beautiful. Our disuse and misuse of love is the not beautiful. Our dereliction in loyalty and devotion unlovely, our sense of SOUL-SEPARATENESS is homely, our psychological warts, inadequacies, misunderstandings, and infantile fantasies are the not beautiful. Additionally, the Life/Death/Life nature, which births, destroys, incubates and births again, is considered by our cultures the not-beautiful."
-Clarissa Pinkola Estes- "Loving the Not-Beautiful"

I have been rereading the myths we all know; The Princess and the Frog, Zeus and Hera, King Arthur and the Green Knight. In the Arthurian myth of the Green Knight, Arthur is set forth to find the answer to the, in my opinion, greatest question of all, What do women want?. The answer, Sovereignty, being independent and unlimited by any other. How can we, as women, be sovereign and at the same time be part of everything? I feel that this idea of sovereignty has been twisted in the western world. The word 'independent' has taken on the quality of "without a man" and the line "unlimited by any other" has hardened a western woman's idea of self. The inability to find sovereignty within our own selves has forces us to search outside for the culprit of our lack of "independence". This kind of outward blame toward men, first off, and other women second, has given us a false sense of what independence actually is or that there is an independence to be found anywhere. I feel that this is the kind of thinking has lead us away from our Goddess and forced us to look everywhere but inside each of us for a source of power. So, look inside, find your Goddess and rewrite the myths of our past. Each one of us has the power to find "Sovereignty" and interconnectedness within, in a way that lets us be independently a part. My brain hurts now... I must think on this a bit more. I would love any feedback from my fellow Goddesses.... Aloha!